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How I BROKE UP With My Smartphone (Addiction) | Smartphone Addict Tips

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Tara Wagner: And action! As business owners, it is pretty hard not to become addicted to our smartphones I've been there, you have probably been there unless you have the willpower of a person with a lot of willpower

So, how do you break up with a phone you still need to see on a regular basis? It's the most tenuous relationship ever I'm gonna share what I did to help me overcome my smartphone addiction without getting rid of my phone Welcome back, Boss Lady Or, if this is your first time here, just simply welcome My name is Tara Wagner, I'm a Belief Breakthrough Coach with almost 10 years' experience helping women overcome their limiting beliefs

I work with female entrepreneurs to help them crush their goals, not their soul And we gotta talk about the elephant in our pockets: this thing It's a tricky subject, because it's addicting It's designed to be addicting And yet it's the one addiction that all of society has become reliant on, and as entrepreneurs it's really difficult to give it up, it's difficult to do our business without a smartphone

And let's face it, how many of us want to give it up? We just don't wanna be so consumed by it, especially when we're not at work I've definitely struggled with this to the point where I didn't like who I was becoming, my face was always in my phone So I wanna share with you some rules and some boundaries and some strategies that I put into place that helped me to use my smartphone more productively, but not feel so used and abused by it Nailed it Rule number one is probably the biggest, and that is no phone plugged in by the bed

The first habit I had to break was getting up in the morning and immediately checking my phone It just set my day up wrong, I wasted my morning, I was setting it up basically reacting to other people's stuff instead of being able to set my days up intentionally Drop me a comment below if you know that this is killing your days or your productivity, or just messing up your mood when you're jumping on your phone first thing in the morning I honestly thought that I could just practice more willpower around this and just not pick it up in the morning But let's be honest, this thing is stronger than we are

So, what I do now is I plug it in in my office or in the kitchen Or, if I need the alarm, at the very least I'm gonna plug it in across the room However, I was still finding myself distracted by it in the morning even though it wasn't right there I'm not picking it up right into the bed, but I was still getting on it too early in the morning So that led me to set up rule number two

Rule number two is using Do Not Disturb I set this up automatically to start at 8:30 PM the night before, and it doesn't turn off until 8:59 AM the next morning 8:59 instead of nine in case I have a nine o'clock appointment I've had times where they tried to call and it didn't ring through So this means I don't see any notifications for text messages, because I have social notifications turned off already

I don't see any of my Asana messages popping up from anybody on the team needing me, I don't see anything until I'm ready to see it when I'm sitting down ready to work Now, if you're worried that you're gonna miss something, there is a setting on most phones with Do Not Disturb where it will break through if somebody tries to call multiple times back to back So, if there's a true emergency, especially because nobody actually picks up the phone and makes a phone call unless it's an emergency, if it's an emergency, you're still gonna get those messages, you're just not gonna get all of the distractions Rule number three, and this is one of the first ones that I actually set, is no phones at tables This means that, if we're sitting down for dinner, our phones are in the other room If we're going out to eat with people, our phones are on silent and put away, maybe even left in the car I did this because one day I was at a restaurant, I looked up, looked around, and there's people there that were celebrating birthdays, that were on dates, and that were all on their phones

Everybody at the table was on their phone Unless you don't like the person that you are sitting across the table from, this is a pretty good reason to make this a rule Just put your phones away, and use that time to really connect We have so few of those moments in our day where we can really just quiet down and connect with the person in front of us This just became a household rule for us, and a rule when we go out with friends

There's absolutely no phones on the table when we're connecting with each other Rule number four is to leave it at home as often as possible And I know this rule freaks a lot of people out, especially if they were born after 1986, because they don't remember going places without a cell phone And the question I always get is, “What about an emergency?” Well, what about an emergency? Somebody's gonna have a phone, there's always a way to get help if you need it, and it's not like I'm leaving my phone at home before I go and wander a crack house at 3 AM, so it's not that big of a deal But if my husband and I are going for a walk, why do we both need a phone? If I'm just going to the grocery store, why do I need to bring a phone with me? I started to do this because it gave me a great time, a practice, to just disconnect, be unplugged from those temptations, and enjoy some quiet space, which I miss, being born in the early 80s

Maybe that's just me, I think a lot of people though probably need more of that quiet space, where the noise is turned off, the distractions are turned off, and we can just pay attention to what's around us and people watch and think That's kind of a big one for me, I'd love to have more time to just think and process I will admit that it was very awkward at first I kinda felt like I had left a child at the store, something just didn't feel right But now I really love the freedom of it, and I would love for you to drop me a comment and let me know if you ever leave your phone at home intentionally or unintentionally, and how you feel or if you feel like you could implement this rule

Rule number five probably has turned into my favorite rule, it is Silent Mode Any time that I am in my work hours, I'm either on calls with clients or I'm working on a project on my computer, my phone actually goes on silent, usually also upside down so that the lights aren't triggering my squirrel brain and making me wanna pay attention and pulling me in This has been really hugely helpful because I'm turning off the dings and the pins that are gonna want to distract me and pull me away, and it really allows me that quiet space that I was talking about to really be able to get some work done I don't know what I would do without Silent Mode I know Silent Mode kinda drives people crazy a little bit because I don't always get their messages right away

But again, if there's an emergency, most people know how to get a hold of me, so it's not that big of a deal I would encourage you to try this, at least on occasion, just to help you to get stuff done when you really need to focus on a big project Rule number six is to set up Night Mode on your computer Night Mode turns your screen from blue to yellow It's not very pretty, but it is helpful

I set this up automatically from sunset to sunrise, but you can also set this up all day The purpose is to allow less blue light to hit your eyes Blue light messes up your sleep, it can cause problems with your eyesight, and it can even be what's contributing to the addictiveness of our devices So, at the minimum, setting this up from sunset to sunrise is preferred But if you can maybe turn this on all day, that's even better

Or, optionally, you can get the blue light glasses, the blue light blockers, which I've never tried If you've tried those, leave me a comment below and let me know what you think about them Rule number seven was about creating boundaries around when I would and would not use my phone For myself, I try to be off of my phone by 7 PM every single evening I don't always nail it, but that's the goal

And then from Saturday afternoon all the way through Monday morning I'm actually trying to be completely unplugged, don't even touch my phone except for maybe FaceTime with my mom This is easier to do on Sundays simply because not a lot of people expect you to be available, but I have also let friends or clients know that they're just not gonna be able to reach me on Sundays, that's my day of being completely unplugged I really find that when I'm able to completely unplug from all of the input and the noise of the world, that I'm really able to get in some good, real deep self-care, which is what I really need to be able to go into the next week not feeling like a crazy person Now, I realize that spending a full day or a day and a half for self-care might not feel realistic to you in the stage of life or business that you're in After all, my son is 19, he's already moved out, it's a different game for me at this point

But that is not to say that self-care is not so important You need to find a way to prioritize it in some way, which is why I want you to download my Self-Care in Seconds training, because it will deliver on its name It's gonna teach you how to shift your mindset and your approach to self-care so that you can start filling your cup and feeling energetic and feeling happy and getting your needs met in as little as 30 seconds If that sounds good to you, if you legit don't have time for self-care but you really, really want to, be sure to grab that training It's absolutely free, you'll find it above my head and in the description below the video

Then leave me a comment below letting me know your best tips for fellow smartphone addicts Give this video a thumbs up, and if you're a female entrepreneur be sure to subscribe for weekly coaching, or share this with other boss ladies who want to overcome their smartphone addiction Then check out this next video on What's it on? It's on social media rules, and then whatever else YouTube is recommending Thank you so much for watching, I'll see you next time

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